First post in here: My sad little rant...lol

[Kellie]

As we've got a few more members but yet this place still seems to be a bit dead I thought I make a post, maybe some people can relate to my sad little rant lol

Has anyone on here never had a girlfriend/boyfriend or Gay/Lesbian friends? I've never had a girlfriend and I've never had any Gay/Lesbian friends. I really would like to go out to clubs and bars and stuff but there's no way I could deal with somethin like that and I would never be able to approach and talk to people, I'd be too nervous and shy. I did try going to a LGBT youth group near where I live earlier this year and it was alright at first but then I just couldn't bring myself to go anymore. Everyone seemed to get along with everyone else so well and chat to each other so easily and I'd hardly say anything. I just felt so out of place I decided not to go anymore. I've found another one (actually on the road I live on lol) and part of me wants to go and try again but I still feel that I haven't changed that much and they same thing might end up happening again I might have to leave that one aswell.

I've also tryed just talking to other lesbian girls on the net but even that I have difficulty doing. Does anyone else find it hard to talk to people on the net, like on MSN messenger? I've read that some people with SA find it easier to talk online with people but sometimes I find it just as difficult.

Anyway I'm going to stop writing now lol It's just something that's been on my mind quite a lot recently

[bobbert84]

woohoo a post...I made one and deleted it because it was a bit insane and i didn't explain properly...or maybe I'm just weird...

I've had a boyfriend for a little while(which didn't last long at all) but not had any gay friends. I remember he randomly started being hateful towards me, I think it's because I dind't speak much when we were with his friends and he got annoyed with me or something, but that was yeeears ago.

I probably wouldn't even like to go to clubs , for other reasons than just shyness, I just don't think I'd fit in or have a good time. I wanted to at one point I think, but even if I didn't feel weird about it, it's prob not my thing. That's probably the main thing I avoid now, I've got over most other things that used to make me very nervous, maybe that and using the phone for more important things. It's always the smaller things that put me off more than the big things too, which is weird.

I've never been to a LGBT group before, what goes on? What do people talk about? I'd probably just end up sitting there if I ever went to one..

Talking to people online helped me at first, I think, but now I only speak to one or two people and I never know what to say, I've really distanced myself from everyone I suppose. I dunno, sometimes it seems like when I actually enjoyed chatting to people, like it was all fake. Then I join forums like this when I don't even consider myself to have SA anymore..hmm...dumdedum sorry I'm always bad at replying

[Ozy123]

Hey everyone. I just found this board from the SA forum. I'm Osman or jus Oz. I've had a bf but he was a complete twerp and just stereotypically gay. He slept around and lied to me for a year. I took it really badly coz I thought I'd turned a corner meeting him.
Havent really been with anyone since then I had a few dates but nothing came of them. I recently sort of met someone but tht not really worked out. I'm glad there are other people in the same boat well I hope things were better for you but you know what I mean! I get really sick of the scene these days coz of the familiar faces who are so pregnant dogy, and self-absorbed. I used to love it but I not really met anyone nice there. As for gay friends I have casual acquaintances but I have to make an effort to keep in touch so I don't usually!

[leo26]

Hey Osman (or Oz!)

I'm sorry to hear your ex-bf cheated on you, that must have hurt and he obviously doesn't deserve you, you deserve much better than him

Sounds like you've had a few dates since then - which is great! Although you say nothing has come of them i think it's a really positive thing that you're out there still and doing things in spite of SA and meeting people - i hope you find someone really cool soon

Well i hope more people will start posting on this...looks like nothing much has happened since October last year! I'm hoping enough people might post on here regularly, time will tell i guess.

Leo.

[Nicosia]

In response to whether it is easier to talk to people online if you have SA then yes I can say it is. In fact the only 2 relationships I've had have been through talking to people online - yep that bloody gaydar site but I have to say they were disasterous and the last one has contributed majorly to the degree in which my SA has taken over.

I did meet a cool person - as a mate only (refreshingly!) but my problem is not with meeting people for the first time and getting to know them - it's the time when they want to get to know me and I start getting edgy. After a couple of months of texting each other every day, I couldn't take it anymore and stopped altogether.

Now because of the break-up from my last gf back in Dec 2004 and the clique - y nature of the whole scene, I haven't gone back into any of those places since apart from one obscure place that was a drag king thing. A part fo me would like to try out a few out of town places like Southopia in Kennington rather than the g-a-y crap in the centre of town but another part of me just says - "best to stay away mate - that way you won't get hurt".

Out

Nicos

[lloyd]

hi everyone - ive not had time to read everyones post but i just introuduce myself a little

im gay and suffer some form of social anxiety - dont get me wrong - i still have friends, i still go gay club and bars in the past - not so much later as im being on my course - but i am suffering lately with SA - and its realyl getting me down buit im feeling a lot better now i have discovered this site - i wish i had found it ages AGO